A girl called "Tragedy"

There once was a girl they called “Tragedy.”

They say she came into this world clothed in an invisible armor for a fight she did not choose.

Little did she know, but much of her life would be fought waging war not with the world around her but a war within herself. 

When I think about that girl, my heart hurts for her. I am sad for her. For the things she has never gotten to experience and the moments yet to come that she will never know. 

But, it’s strange. I don’t feel sorry for myself but instead feel a deep sadness for the girl that could have been - the world she could have known. I see that girl reflected in the faces of those I love - my friends, my family, Mark. There is no anger, just sadness.

There once was a girl called “Tragedy.”

She learned from a young age that the sharpest swords would not save her. 

She tried for years to outrun, outwill, and outsmart her circumstances but the armor she bore offered little protection for the ever changing fight at hand.

If I take a step back from myself and look at the narrative of my life one might easily say it has been a life rooted in disease, divorce, despair, loss, suffering, pain, and adversity.

But, in all reality I have never viewed my life as such - a “tragedy” that is. It is only after this latest diagnosis of cancer have I felt such a deep sadness for the girl who was assigned this life.
I find myself whispering beneath my breath “thank you” for sticking with me through it all while also holding back tears laden with the words “I’m sorry.”

There once was a girl they called “Tragedy”

They say the armor she bears is composed of impossibility. 

That by all odds she should not be here. 

Her arrows are forged in forgiveness and her bow built on borrowed time. 

We’ve made it through eight rounds of chemo. Four more to go with a scan and oncology and CF appointments in there as well. This body is holding up given the circumstances, but to be honest, I will be so grateful for the day when “chemo” isn’t a part of my daily dialogue. It’s a delicate dance between CF and Cancer. By depleting my immune system with chemo, my lungs continue to take a “hit” with every round. It’s hard to know where CF complications and symptoms begin and where the effects of chemo end. Am I exhausted because of CF? Chemo? Am I just lazy? Maybe I can merely outwill and outwit all of this. There’s a voice I hear reverberating throughout my body saying “you should be doing and handling this all better. You should be pushing yourself harder.”

There once was a girl they called “Tragedy”

She would not be defined by circumstance but instead poised for possibility. 

She learned her greatest strength was not in the fight itself but how she could use the struggle for good. 

So she shed the armor she thought protected those she loved and embraced the battle before and behind her.

There once was a girl they called “Tragedy”

They say she was focused, fearless, and fervent. 

She learned that it was the tragedy itself that gave her life its trajectory. 

And while she felt the heavy pull of each obstacle, It’s what gave her the strength to close her eyes and trust what may lie ahead - believing in a good greater than all comprehension. Because tragedy never makes sense.

This life and all it’s given has made me who I am. When I stopped fighting its existence and instead embraced its truth, therein lied the whole of who I am and could be. And while my heart feels heavy for such a girl, I can’t help but feel grateful for this one wild and beautiful life some might call a tragedy. But it’s mine, and it’s the only one I get. I am not a tragedy.

There is a girl they call  “tragedy.”

They say she lives her life overcoming odds and finding beauty in impossibility.

She embraces her name while breathing life into its greater trajectory.

Amidst every setback she simply pulls the nock of the arrow back just a little bit further - aiming higher towards the sky. 

But the tension of the bow can prove to be too much at times. It’s the hands that surround Tragedy that make holding it steady even possible, let alone give it strength to soar.
When it’s time to release that arrow, there’s a hope that fuels its flight. A destination unknown. 

But, when it does find its final destination Tragedy hopes that her life might not be defined for its difficulties but a reflection of the beauty that can come from unchosen circumstances. 

There is no tragedy where hope is found. 

Moms, Dads, & Diagosis

I have not nor will I ever have the chance to be a mom.

Of a human child that is. I realize I proudly own every sweatshirt, hat, and keychain that says, “proud dog mom” on it. In that case, I’ve been a new mom six times and loved every furry four-legged addition to our house. I also am grateful for Mark’s willingness to embrace the chaos of such a furry family and make it our own. *For clarity and to temper your thoughts that I am the crazy dog lady, we have only ever had four at once. I realize that last sentence didn’t help my case. For what it’s worth, the Ballou-Bonnema Dood Ranch is currently full. 

Now, we have friends who have so graciously embraced us as parts of their families and there’s no greater love than the love I feel for their littles. Or, not so littles as with every breath it seems ten years pass. Time and milestones I never thought I’d witness.  It’s one of life’s greatest gifts - to watch those you love become parents. It also is one of the hardest. Not because I still imagine what Mark and my life would have been like had we experienced having a baby placed in our arms for the first time, but because I see how difficult it is to be a parent. It’s the most important and most difficult job there truly is. It’s always been my greatest hope that our friends who are parents know they are not alone in this journey. That they are seen and loved for who they are and we love their littles because of them. 

I feel a lump form in my throat as I imagine my best friends holding their children for the first time. A moment I can only imagine. One that nonetheless causes tears born from grateful beauty to fill my eyes. In that very moment I imagine the world stands still because their world is right before them - filled with a realized hope and endless possibility. 

The hardest people to tell that I had cancer? 

My parents. 

No parent wants to hear that their child has cancer, but sharing this news with my parents seemed to represent so much more. It represented a devastation paired with unrelenting realities that I can only begin to imagine as a parent. 

My parents are no strangers to pain and loss when it comes to their children. Most of my childhood was spent watching them bear witness to the unrelenting realities of having not one, but two children with CF. How do you give your children the world when it seems the only world they will ever know dares to be stolen? I think about my parents holding my brother and I for the first time and my heart hurts for them and how such a moment of peace, possibility, and potential would be shattered. 

Twenty-six years ago this week my parents lost their first child to cystic fibrosis. There had been many moments during his brief seventeen years which were thought to be his last only to have his tenacity, vigor, and strength pull him out of the clutches of death for a bit more time. It makes my stomach churn thinking about what my parents endured every time this happened. Not only watching your child be a slave to a merciless disease but to watch them fight for every breath repeatedly has to be helplessly devastating to the heart and mind. Whether a protective mechanism or one of mere coping, I have trouble remembering much of my childhood. I do, however, remember the faces of my parents as we gathered next to my brother for his final goodbye. Nate, with labored breath, was the calm to CF’s tormenting storm. But the pain woven within the creases of my parents' faces, that’s unforgettable. I still see them today and I still see Nate's face as he did his best to console their pain.

Much of who I am today is because of bearing witness to such pain. I do my best to shield anyone I love from such hurt, but most of all my parents. I cannot begin to fathom losing one child let alone knowing the likelihood of losing another to the same disease. But, then came a morsel of hope - one in the form of three tiny pills that seemingly lifted the heaviness of death from every breath. (Please feel free to read my blog entries about the life-changing drug “Trikafta”.) There was a hope, whether naive or not,  that my parents could be freed of knowing such devastation again at the hands of CF. For now, it seemed as if we had time. That I didn’t need to be that silent burden bearing down upon the hearts and minds of my parents. 

In that too familiar of a hospital room reeling amidst the unfathomable news of cancer, I couldn’t help but think of my parents and how I could possibly tell them. All I could think about was how unfair it all seemed to be. How brutal and unimaginable for them.

They were my last phone call and one I couldn’t do alone. I couldn’t keep the tears from flowing as I told them in broken words between uncontrollable sobs that their daughter had pancreatic cancer. Mark, gripping my hand, would interject in strength and poise as I seemingly tried to grapple with the pain I was unintentionally unloading onto my parents yet again. The only words that I could say was, "I'm sorry." I imagine in the 1980s what the words and diagnosis of “CF” felt like in the lives of my parents. It was deadly in many ways, to say the least. Like a bomb exploding amidst that perfect idealized family everyone is conditioned to dream of and strive to unconsciously emulate. 

That morsel of hope we’d known for the last few years? I just dropped a bomb on it. Again. I can’t help but imagine them holding me for the first time and dreaming of all of life’s grand possibilities. My reality is one a parent should never have to know, let alone dream for their child as they hold them within the hope of their arms for the very first time. 

I can’t change the reality of CF or cancer but I can promise that they will not suffer at the cost of my truth. I have been blessed with two sets of parents plus my wonderful in-laws. I hope they all know that the tenacity, strength, and gratitude I dare move through this journey with is one born from each of them and their love. That regardless of circumstances I could not do this journey without the person they’ve shaped me to be. And should my journey end sooner than we all hope, I hope that I leave them feeling most proud to have had me as their daughter. 

Hug your babies, the furry kind or human. Love to you all.

*Round 6 of chemo complete. 6 more to go. 

Falling Leaves & Letting Go

There’s a familiar sadness I feel as I stare out the window of this coffee shop and see colored leaves desperately clinging to their branches. They seem so delicate. So fragile. They represent a season of change.

While this body isn’t one I’d recommend, I am constantly in awe of all it is able to withstand. This body is strong. Sometimes it surprises me and I wonder if it’s something that is built, cultivated, or just born unto you. I don’t mean physically strong, but the strength it has to endure the brutality of disease, of treatment, of survival. I ask myself frequently how can the body be so strong yet the spirit at times feels so fragile? I don’t let myself linger there for long as I know that no answer will pacify my spirit’s remorse or change the circumstances of this season. 

Hues of golden amber and vibrant yellows seem to sparkle against the sun as the wind touches every leaf. Colors glimmer against nature’s robust breath. It’s as if mother nature has been waiting to exhale and for the first time we see her in Autumn’s radiant change. 

I know CF’s change. And while I can’t predict every move and unfair shift in my CF’s progression, I understand it. Whether I want to or not. CF and I have lived together for over thirty-seven years. We’ve come to live together despite change, despite disease progression. I might even say that CF has let me live -  allowing me to truly see and experience the beauty life has to offer. The gift that it truly is. (Also, shoutout to my incredible care teams and support systems who have also helped me live this beautiful life.)

But, cancer. It seems so different. It seems so heavy like a cloak of rain soaked leaves bound together and pulling me towards the chilly earth that lay beneath my numb feet. It still feels so foreign.

We have completed five rounds of chemo which means we have seven more to go. I hate to admit it, but they’re getting harder. Physically and mentally. Soul sucking exhaustion that makes my body feel so heavy and drained - a feeling I am used to merely pushing through but find cancer and chemo’s exhaustion almost impossible. Amidst all of these treatments and appointments locally, we’ve made several trips within a given week to see my Oncology and CF teams in Minneapolis as well as a visit to replace Penelope, my portacath of seven years that decided to fracture. 

But Autumn’s radiance doesn’t last. The glimmer fades and every few seconds that rustling wind takes captive one more leaf - whirling it about in unpredictable splendor as it finds its way to the ground. One more leaf has sung its final swan song. It could no longer withstand the wind’s clawing grip and the leaf was forced to let go from its branch. 

In my backyard it still looks like summer, but there are little signs everywhere that the season is amidst change. I see it when I leave the safety of my little home and venture out into the world. When I look out my front window. When I listen and hear the unmistakable rustling of weathered leaves amongst the trees. One that if you close your eyes can be mistaken for gentle and repetitive waves as the fragile leaves do all they can to hang on for a bit longer.

My life doesn’t feel like my own no matter how I try to hang onto it, nor do I feel like myself. Who am I amidst all of this? I feel just like a girl trying desperately to live this one wild and beautiful life while trying to balance the two sides of the scale called CF and Cancer. I cherish the sweet moments that make me feel like myself. The moments that the winds of CF or Cancer aren’t pulling at me from every direction as I do my best to stand strong in remembering who and what I am. That I am more than this.

There’s that sadness again. The kind that silently grips your insides and leaves a knot in your throat forbidding you to speak of it. It’s a loss you feel so deeply that no matter how many times the season is gifted to you it never gets easier. If anything, the pang of hurt becomes more palpable. Like a heartbeat. A heartbeat you see effect so many you love.

But maybe it isn’t that the leaves are fragile and delicate at all. Maybe they’re what’s strong. They’re what is brave. Maybe it isn’t the wind that rips them from their branches but that the leaves finally let go and simply trust - giving rest to a season of hope that when the sun’s radiance finds its first warmth once again so will new life unfurl. 

I am amazed at this body and how much she can endure. How far she can be pushed. I am not sure if that should make me proud or if it merely makes my heart heavy with sadness. I do my best to remain grateful to her as she has borne the brunt of so much. But she is strong. She is resilient. And she has been so good to me.

My latest scan showed no significant change in the tumor on my pancreas. With that said, this can be viewed as good news. It’s not growing, it has not spread, and we are still early in our treatment course. However, chemotherapy is doing a number on my lungs and my liver numbers. It’s all a delicate balance as we fight not only one disease but do our best to survive the other. Out of control liver numbers could put me in a position like I was this summer where I was unable to take the CFTR modulator that has extended my life and health by slowing my CF’s progression. This drug is metabolized in the liver and therefore can cause more undue stress on the organ putting it in jeopardy. While being off of this drug in June/ July my CF symptoms came flooding back and my lung function drastically dropped by 16% in just seven days. I was back to drowning within my own body and there was nothing I could do to stop it. Thankfully, after having the ERCP my liver numbers stabilized and I was able to begin taking Trikafta again and my numbers somewhat rebounded. Unchecked lungs also means the antibiotic resistant bugs that call my lungs home have the potential in my depleted immune system to wreak havoc.

The leaves tell me that it’s time - time to be present, time to let go and time to simply trust. They tell me that amidst this season of change there is still so much beauty to be had. That it takes bravery to embrace the unknown and simply trust the wind will guide you, hold you, and help you embrace whatever the next season may hold.  Love to you all.

Constance & Seeds of Hope

From the wind it was carried across the miles and brought to rest upon chance,  atop a place it could be inspired to grow, a place it could dance - 

A place the tiniest seed of hope only dare to take root, a place only hope dare know. 

Its truth seemed insurmountable and its potential off-written. The wild world seemed wrought with unchangeable circumstances and an unfavorable position. 

The week has found me within the walls of a room on 7B in preparation for another ERCP. This time, replacing the previously placed temporary stent within my bile duct with a more permanent one. After three rounds of chemo and having to be put under anesthesia again, my pulmonary team wanted to hit these lungs with some potent antibiotics to help them rebound and weather whatever may come. Gratefully, I will be headed home by the end of the day. 

That tiny seed of hope embracing all its odds left no match unmet - 

determined to weather every storm and be grateful for every sunset. 

Today she is known as “Constance”, she’s not grand but

she’s not small. 

She is made of patience and peace - her leaves unfurled

waiting for the sun to call. 

             I sit beneath a “Constance” set between a tower of                 reddish-brown brick 

shielded from the warmth and radiance of the sun hearing an invisible clock tick.

Shadows shift, dance, and dissolve as the wind moves and evolves.

Her leaves a muse to the season’s touch, light pouring through her canopy painting patterns of contrast by nature’s brush. 

I look up and see how she shows signs of the changing season found. 

The earliest of leaves caught just right by the wind gently find their way to the ground. 

Leaves left behind cling gently to the branch - 

fluttering by way of synchronicity as if they are just waiting on chance.

The wind is warm and welcomed. It’s persistent in its presence, yet feels strangely comforting as I tuck my short new bob behind my ears for what feels like the hundredth time. My tingly numb fingers quickly reach the end of my hair and I feel a familiar sting - a reminder of this reality. One that feels both familiar, yet so foreign. 

It is mid September so the sun hangs low in the sky. Pools of amber light pour across concrete canvases and the world has for a moment, an embraceable warmth. A gentleness. I close my eyes and do my best to hold this moment within my hands - grateful to be immersed in such beauty wishing for time to simply stop. For any progression to simply stop.


But, this is the truth I’ve always known, even if I haven’t always embraced it. My life has been built upon trying to stop time - to stop the progression of CF. And now, to stop the progression of pancreatic cancer. So, why then does it feel like I am a stranger in my own life’s story? 

    Because I never imagined to know such a season. 

The shadows cast by Constance’s leaves cannot dance upon the pavement without the contrast created by the sun’s radiance. We cannot know the power of the light if we do not know the dark. We cannot know the beauty of this life and its priceless meaning without knowing all we have to lose. We cannot survive this life without even the tiniest seed of hope. 

From the wind it was carried across the miles and brought to rest upon chance, atop a place it could be inspired to grow - a place it could dance. 

A tiny seed of hope only dare to take root - only hope dare know. 

Love to you all.

Simply Surviving : PC & CF

 “You’re so brave.” A phrase over the years that has been graciously poured upon me like a midsummer’s late afternoon rain. There's peace within such a downpour. Puddles ripple with a gentle invitation that beg my inner five-year-old to never look back while jumping feet first into the unknown depths of such uncharted waters. 

But, what if I told you that I am not brave? 

I am simply doing the only thing I can. 

Surviving. It’s all I have ever known. 

Cystic fibrosis has been an ever-changing storm raging within my life for over thirty-seven years. It seems ironic that for most of my life, thirty-seven was the median life-expectancy for someone born with cystic fibrosis - a vast improvement from eighteen when I was born. You can imagine that this past December’s birthday of turning thirty-seven was filled with many different emotions. (Feel free to read my birthday reflections here at “Lucia & Life Expectancy”.) 

“You’re so inspiring.” Another phrase that has been generously gifted to me by so many of you. Your words instill a radiance that illuminates an impenetrable hope and gives light to the most melancholy and dreary of days. Such warmth renews the spirit and reminds the heart that one cannot blossom without a little rain. One cannot bloom without a little hope. 

But, what if I told you I am not inspiring. 

I have simply been trying to hold onto this one wild and beautiful life.

In all honesty, I have simply been trying to survive.

“You’re so strong”. A phrase that has swirled around and through me like the wind across the painted prairie. It embraces every part of me being, and at times, holds me up when I'm sure that I don’t have the courage to stand on my own. 

But, what if I told you that I am not strong.

I simply don’t have a choice. 

I just want to survive. 

If you know me, you most likely know that I have a healthy sense of gallows humor. It’s how I’ve survived most of my life feeling as if I am running out of time. Pair that feeling alongside the immense feeling of guilt for a disease that I know causes people I love so much pain. Such feelings are deeply embedded within my being - a sense of responsibility that I must prepare those that I love for a world without me. Such a life approach may seem horrific to most people, but it’s all I’ve ever known. Dark humor is all I have at times to cope with such unchangeable circumstances. Not everyone appreciates my humor, but sometimes it’s all I have to survive my own life. Many of those people may have heard me say at some point, “if CF doesn’t kill me, then we’ve won the game.” Now that doesn’t mean I stand in the eye of a storm staring down a funnel cloud. I am grateful for this one beautiful life, and each of you that bravely embraces me with your own inspired strength. I am simply grateful to be alive. 

The ongoing battle between my life and CF’s realities has never been one that has been fought fairly, and while I would love nothing more than our relationship with each other to be temperate, I know CF too well. It never plays by my preconceived expectations or listens to my pleas. Why am I telling you this?

Many of you are wondering if my pancreatic cancer diagnosis has anything to do with cystic fibrosis.

Trying to bring some levity to the heaviness that engulfed my hospital room, I said to the members of my concerned care team, “Well, I always say if CF isn’t what kills me then we’ve won the game. Right?” I realize this might make you cringe, but again, gallows humor.

But, the reality is that my latest diagnosis of pancreatic cancer is caused by cystic fibrosis. 

What a low blow. Am I right? 

This is no cause for alarm to my fellow individuals living with CF, but people with cystic fibrosis are at greater risk of cancer due to ongoing complications derived from the CFTR protein dysfunction. More specifically, we are at the greatest risk of colorectal, pancreatic, and respiratory cancers. Here, a published article from the NIH and the National Library of Medicine explains it better:

“Cystic fibrosis (CF) is a genetic condition that affects the lungs, digestion, and other body systems. People with CF have a higher chance of developing certain types of cancer. The reason for this is related to a gene called CFTR, which is altered in CF patients. This gene normally helps regulate the movement of substances in and out of cells. When it does not work properly, it can lead to changes in cells that make them more likely to become cancerous. The cancers most commonly associated with CF are colorectal, pancreatic, and respiratory cancers.”
Read the Article HERE:  “Cystic Fibrosis and Cancer: Unraveling the Complex Role of CFTR Gene in Cancer Susceptibility”

You might also be wondering why this hasn’t been talked about much in the world of CF.

Remember when I talked about life expectancy and CF? Well, thanks to a multitude of advancements, therapies, and medications, to put it quite simply - we are living longer. With such incredible advancements come many things we have yet to learn about CF in an aging population. Like, how decades of non-functioning CFTR protein can lead to changes within a cell which can lead to cancer.  I see this as merely an opportunity to start a new conversation - one that we’ve never been able to have before. One that is only possible because of these gifted years. One that involves screenings, education, changeable circumstances, and positive outcomes. One that involves more birthdays. 

My dear friends, I alone am not brave. Bravery lives within the hand that reaches out to mine and doesn’t let go. That gives an extra squeeze followed by a silent smile.

My dear friends, I alone am not inspiring. Inspiration is born of one of those hugs that when you try to pull away the other person holds on a little bit longer - forbidding to let go. 

My dear friends, I alone am not strong. Strength is born from simply living authentically in your truth - reflected in those that stand beside you and with you through the best of days and the most merciless of storms.

We don’t get to decide when it rains and we certainly don’t get to decide the severity of a storm. The only decision we are given is how we endure the storm - hoping we might just get a glimpse of a rainbow. Hoping we might merely survive.  Love to you all.

**A special thanks to Jenny Humphries for sending me, as she said, "pancreas to punch". My shirt is compliments of my love, Mark. He knows me well. Thank you to all of you who have overwhelming sent your love, well wishes, and support. It means more than we can say. 

For those keeping track - 2 Rounds down. 10 to go. 

A Bird and Cancer

There once was a bird named Resilience. 

She loved to greet each new sunrise with a song and watch the setting skies turn into a cacophony of painted impressionism as stars pierced through a canvas sewn by fireflies. 

When the ground beneath her feet seemed unsteady and foreign, Resilience knew the only option before her was to learn how to fly. The warmth of the sun kissed sky would sweep her up over every cumulus cloud - weightless with reckless abandon. It’s only at such heights she could see this was a gift that came in the form of a vista. Would she have ever had the courage to fly if it had not been for sinking sand? 

When the skies bore an unforgiving cry, Resilience closed her eyes and hoped the rolling soft waves beneath would catch her - cradling her like a softspun lullaby sung from the turning tides of seas below. Or, if the waves did not hold, she’d surely learn how to swim. If the skies had not fallen out of favor would she have ever dared to taste the saltiness of the sea?  

 

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In early July, while gratefully recovering at the University of Minnesota from compounding liver complications, it was discovered that I have Pancreatic Cancer. 

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There once was a bird named Resilience. She loved to sing and would dare find there was always something good to sing about. But lately, those songs have seemingly found a chorus of cries. A few tears shed for herself, but most set as an uncontrollable spillway for the abundant love in her life that stares back at her. Each tear representative of the heartache, pain, and loss she continues to cause by the content of her composition. 

As life has taught me over these thirty-seven years, I was where I needed to be when I needed to be during all of this. If it had not been for the sudden onset of Liver and Bile Duct complications, my diligent and caring research team at Sanford along with my attentive, unwavering teams at University of Minnesota, this latest diagnosis would have never been caught at such a stage. For each of them I am grateful beyond words and know I owe my life to them. A familiar yet humbling place to rest amidst a harsh unwanted reality.

I had wished for the harshness of such a reality to find its numb place within my resilient spirit as I tried to hold back tears while coordinating a new world of referrals, oncologist/ GI appointments, PET scans, labs, chemo schedules all while trying to find the words to tell the people I love. There are only a few times in my life that I have known such hard tears: saying goodbye to Mark when we moved apart during Covid, saying the final goodbye to our first dogs, and facing the harsh unfair realities of CF ten years ago. It’s a cataclysmic schism that tears your soul in two and leaves every cell of your being laden with a restless ache that never seems to recover. You can mend the halves back together but it will never be the same.

After a meeting between all the brilliant, caring, and tenacious minds that represent my CF team and Pancreatic Oncology Team at the University of Minnesota and the Oncology team at Sanford in Sioux Falls, the best case plan was composed and a date was set to start this new journey. All in hopes it would be timed to leave me feeling my best for preparations and performances for our Breathe Bravely Backyard Bash.

Well, sometimes life happens. Instead of starting chemo I would test positive for Covid and our best laid plans would be delayed. Finally, on Monday, August 5th I received my first round of Folfirinox - a hard-hitting chemotherapy combination used to treat Pancreatic Cancer. If this body proves its stability and strength, my second round of chemo will begin again on Monday, August 19 until Wednesday, August 21.

The plan: 12 treatments in 6 months. Or, one round every two weeks. This consists of three different drugs: fluorouracil, irinotecan hydrochloride, and oxaliplatin. Two of them are administered at the Oncology Infusion Center within a several hours and one of them is sent home via continuous IV Pump (an old friend with whom I am very familiar sleeping). Good thing I’m married to my favorite infusion nurse. ***Just kidding, OCC & Oncology nurses, I love all of you!

I know what you’re all wondering. “Ashley, what’s the prognosis?”

My dear friends, if CF has taught me anything over the last three decades it is that we take life breath by breath alongside a hefty shot of hope. We do the best we can with what we are given, however that is given. I wish I weren’t writing this post. I wish more than anything I wasn’t the source of tears in the eyes of my love, my friends, my family. But, there will always be unchangeable circumstances that come with unfair expectations. We take this latest journey one treatment, one scan, and one day at a time - doing our best to be grateful for every ounce of every moment that is gifted. 

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I used to think that “resilient” meant turning towards the fight and having the strength and stamina to endure all it had to give - collecting lessons, scraped knees, and survival skills along the way like badges I’d need my mom to sew onto my Girl Scout Junior sash.

But I’m beginning to believe Resilience wouldn’t fly into the storm. She’d turn, stretch out her wings and let the force of the storm’s raging winds and battering tides be her strength - carrying her across the landscapes of this beautiful life. 

Love to you all.